What To Wear To A Funeral Service

Dress nicely and modestly for a funeral.

Going to a funeral is never an easy or enjoyable thing to do. Dressing appropriately for the service is important, because it shows respect for the deceased and for the other loved ones attending the service. When dressing for a funeral, you don't necessarily have to go out and buy anything new. Just remember to dress as nicely and modestly as possible.

Colors

When going to a funeral, black is always the first color that comes to mind, but while black is always appropriate to wear to a funeral, it's not always necessary. It is still traditional for the deceased's family members to wear black, but if you're not a family member, you can wear color. The best rule of thumb when choosing a color to wear to a funeral is to wear a traditional or subdued color. Gray, khaki, light blue, purple and navy blue are all good choices. It is fine to think about whether the deceased would have wanted you to wear black or to wear a shade of the deceased's favorite color. The purpose of a funeral service is to celebrate that person.

Women

The most important thing women should remember when dressing for a funeral is not to wear anything too tight or low-cut. Not only is it disrespectful, but you may also be bending down to help people into their seats, giving hugs and other actions that may cause you embarrassment if you wear a too-tight or low-cut outfit. The rule for skirts and dresses is knee length or longer, your shoulders should be covered. It is acceptable to wear dress pants with a nice top. Keep your jewelry and accessories to a minimum. Bring along a purse in a subdued color, and if you choose to wear jewelry, wear something traditional and simple, such as a small string of pearls. Your shoes should be in a subdued color and not show your toes.

Men

Men should wear dark suits to funerals; black, navy blue and dark gray are appropriate. Pair a white or other subdued color dress shirt with the suit, and wear a tie that is either a solid color or has a classic pattern, like stripes. Distracting novelty ties are inappropriate for funerals. Your socks should match the color of your pants, and your belt should match the color of your shoes. Your belt and shoes should be a darker, classic color that complements your suit, such as brown, black, gray or navy.

It is appropriate to take your jacket off during the service if other men, especially the deceased's family members, do so. It is also permissible not to wear a jacket if the funeral service is being held in hot weather. However, it is never acceptable to wear shorts or sandals to a funeral service.

You should either not wear any jewelry at all or only wear classic jewelry, such as a small watch with a dark leather band.

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